The bride shared her idea on a Facebook wedding group asking if it would be ‘too mean’ to put a table together for wedding crashers and those didn’t RSVP but still show up to her big day
A bride-to-be has shared her plans to create a “shame table” for guests who didn’t RSVP and charge them for food.
The “savage” bride shared her idea on a Facebook wedding group asking if it would be “too mean” to put a foldable table together for unexpected guests.
She also explains that “if we have a food truck they will need to buy their own food”.
However, if each guest is given a plate to themselves, those who didn’t RSVP simply “won’t have food”.
She defended herself by saying her family is the type to invite people without asking her permission first.
he bride-to-be shared her plans with other future brides to see if it was a good idea.
Her idea divided opinion as some loved it as they were going to have their own “wedding crasher” table to others who branded it “rude”.
The full post read: “Is this too mean? I am thinking of putting a shame table lol.
“It won’t be decorated, might be one of the foldable tables with a name card that says ‘I didn’t RSVP but still wanted to come’ (or still wanted to celebrate to make it less mean).
“If we have a food truck they will need to buy their own food.
“If we have plates for each person (who RSVP) they won’t have food.
“My family is the type to invite everyone without permission.”
She later updated the post, adding: “I wouldn’t call the table a shame table (more of a joke) it will have a cloth on top, but it’ll be for everyone who didn’t RSVP as such.
“I appreciate that I shouldn’t shame them, I just don’t want to pay for extra food.”
Many other future brides had strong opinions for both sides of the argument.
One user said: “Can you call it the ‘wedding crashers table’?”
Another commented: “Honestly, that’s rude and very unclassy”.
Another replied: “Yes it’s too mean. Your guests have lives.
“They may have to cancel last minute, they might not be able to RSVP because of reasons unknown to you. Don’t be that person.”
Another added: “I wouldn’t even bother to set up a table of shame; (at least, not until the last minute, if necessary, if at all.)
“They shouldn’t be expecting the same courtesy as everyone else, who did RSVP. LOL!”
Another said: “It is mean, but I love it! Lol. It’s so rude not to RSVP and then show up.”
Another commented: “I love this idea and may even use it… a little more subtly though; I’m not as savage as you.
“I think maybe just adding an extra table and not including them in the paid meal will suffice… for me anyway!”
Another simply added: “You little savage, you”.